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Victory Is A Mother’s Child

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My mother planted the most important lesson about winning in my young heart: “If you deserve it, you’ll get it no matter what the odds are; and regardless of the outcome, you will always be a winner to me!

I was 16 at that time, coming home from school after a frenzied preliminary tallying of scores for the valedictorian hopefuls of our senior class (1985). There was this huge tally board right by the school’s quadrangle where numerical values were assigned to academic achievements and extra-curricular activities next to the candidates’ names and were updated and weighted daily. I was one of them, and the competition was getting fiercer and more complicated  by the day especially when the one tallying the scores was the school’s bookkeeper–who happened to be my closest rival’s mother– assisted by her husband, our Physical Education teacher (yes, politics isn’t only a favorite subject in the Philippines, more likely a family affair if not a way of life).  So when I confided to her about my apprehension, she nonchalantly brushed  my fear aside, gave me a warm hug, and reassured me with that statement.

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Awarded, Week 173

Week 173

Week 173

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Week 172

Fast forward to 24 years: getting these citations for the past two weeks for the Filipino Blog of the Week may seem just another digital crap to many. To those who value the grit of  real-world work, the grime of being your own worst critic, and the gravity of nurturing one’s passion, this is like manna emailed from heaven or fire downloaded not pirated from Mount Olympus. This is breaking your own glass ceiling¹, not anyone else’s.  Incidentally, Nike, the Greek goddess of victory, is “seen with wings in most statues and paintings, to remind people that victory is fleeting.” ² It is, after all, not what you get from a contest, but what you could become.

For whatever it’s worth, my mother taught me that politics may take the win from her child but it can never deny the winner in him.

P. S.

My mother, Fely, was at my graduation to hear her son deliver the valedictory address. I knew that that wasn’t a fleeting moment for her. Rest in peace, Nanay.

To my friends, readers, and fellow bloggers who voted for and continues to read The Digitizer: it is not a bad idea at all to take people along in any exciting journey. Writing these posts and getting your feedback is like sharing that journey of self-discovery together and having a fresh take on life and the world with different sets of eyes. Also to Talksmart who facilitated the contest in his site and for elevating my blog to the Hall of Fame. Thank you.


Written by nealm

18 August 2009 at 2:49 AM

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  1. Mr. Digitizer . . . . you never fade. Your writing ability has always been a source of inspiration of me. Too bad, i wasn’t able to make this comment on time.

    Keep it up bro.


    Aniceto Zabala

    18 August 2009 at 5:27 AM

  2. Neal, you forgot to mention the flagpole and Jose
    Rizal’s statue in the middle of the quadrangle. And the kids who did not turn in their assignments that day had to stay behind to pick up trash and fallen leaves with sticks as their punishment. Heck if that had to be counted as extra-curricular merits, I would have been a Valedictorian myself, too.
    Anyways bro, always a pleasure to read your blogs. Looking forward to more heartwarming true stories and funny ones.


    18 August 2009 at 5:17 PM

    • Right. LOL. You meant MBA and PhD in sweeping and blackboard-cleaning? Not to mention being apt pupils of capitalism by buying our teachers’ wares and what-not that not even the students of the West could replicate? Philippine education is indeed the School of Hard Knocks and the University of Bare-knuckle Survival. Well, John, it’s a delight to be reminded by your succinct recollections and to get your kind comment as well. Please do drop by every now and then.

      the digitizer

      18 August 2009 at 5:49 PM

  3. I wish to have met your mother… I can really relate to this blog as I am a mother myself….I like best this part …. my mother taught me that politics may take the win from her child but it can never deny the winner in him.
    If every child would LISTEN and have so much faith in us, and mothers would have the purest love and support for their children , I dont think a child would go wrong, they may go wrong but will always go back…Thank you Neal , your mother must really be proud of you:)

    Cecille Antenorcruz

    4 September 2009 at 3:46 AM

    • My sincerest appreciation, Cecille. IMHO, it is the mother that makes the man (or woman) being the teacher and the nurturer in the family. I am just grateful God gifted me with a godly, good-natured mother even just for the first 21 years of my life. Having read what you had to say about your son, Anton Cruz (“Are You The Next Big Star? (2009)” Finalist), and your values on parenting and motherhood, I know your children are blessed, too, in more ways they can possibly know now. God bless the world for mothers like you and my Nanay!

      the digitizer

      4 September 2009 at 4:03 AM

  4. […] a talent and soul this raw, real and reassuring, I couldn’t help but be reminded of what my late mother told me about winning : “Politics may take the win from her child but it can never deny the winner in […]

    SHINE « [ the digitizer ]

    8 September 2009 at 6:32 AM

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